7 Negative People You Need To Ignore & Avoid For You To Succeed

The other day someone asked if I think we can be happy together. I gave a simple answer that happiness is a personal choice.

How we react to external and internal things that affect our lives determines the outcome of our behaviour either in positive or negative. So there you have it, you can choose to be happy or not, no matter the situation.

Sadly, some people are so entrenched in seeing the negative side of things that they leave zero room for positive things to grow.

People like this inhabit our families, work environments, and social circles. It can be emotionally draining just being around them, and you must be careful because their negative attitudes and opinions are venomous and contagious.

Letting go of negative people doesn’t mean you hate them, or that you wish them harm; it just means you care about your own well-being. Because every time you subtract negative from your life, you make room for more positive.

There is this juicy article on the negative people you need to avoid and you need to take a few minutes to find out who you need to weed out for you to be happy.

1. The hopelessly hostile drama queen-

Some people love to stir up controversy and drama for no apparent reason. Don’t buy into their propaganda. Stay out of other people’s drama and don’t needlessly create your own. Don’t spew hostile words at someone who spews them at you.

Keep your composure and replace the stink of confrontation with the fragrance of resolution. The louder the opposition wants to yell, and the more drama they want to stir, the calmer and more confidently you need to think and speak. Don’t let them get to you.

2. The person you have failed to please a hundred times before-

Some people are impossible to please; you will not be able to break through to them no matter what you do. Accept this harsh as a fact of life.

Throughout your life, some people will discredit you, disrespect you and treat you poorly for no apparent reason at all. Don’t consume yourself with trying to change them or win their approval.

And don’t make any space in your heart to hate them. Simply walk away and let karma deal with the things they do, because any bit of time you spend on them will be wasted, and any bit of hate and aggravation in your heart will only hurt you

3. The pessimist who always dumps on your dreams –

Stop giving credit to those who discredit your dreams. These people are punishing your potential by slowly extinguishing your inner flame with their watered down vision of what you are capable of achieving. If you give in and let their negativity convince you of who you are, their madness will wither you away.

You will morph into who they say you are, rather than living honestly as yourself. In this way, these people will steal your life from you. You will lose track of where their opinion ends and your reality begins. Their fiction will become your life’s story.

4. The manipulator-

Beware of manipulators, or bullies, who try to use their negativity to intimidate and manipulate your thoughts. These people routinely prioritize their own feelings and needs over and above everyone else’s.

They will demand that you bend over to help them, but if, heaven forbid, you need help, they will not be able to stand it. When someone tries to bully you, stand up for yourself and say, “Not so fast, buddy! Your delusion of superiority is your problem, not mine.” And if they refuse to reason with you, walk away without a fight.

5. The stubborn one who insists you should be someone else-

In the long run, it’s always better to be disrespected for who you are than respected for who you are not.

In fact, the only relationships that work well are the ones that make you a better person without changing you into someone other than yourself, and without preventing you from outgrowing the person you used to be.

When you ignore their opinions and decide to be who you are, instead of who they want you to be, you open yourself up to real love, real happiness, and real success. There is no need to put on a mask. There is no need to pretend to be someone you’re not.

6. The unforgiving friend who refuses to forgive you for your mistakes-

The most honorable thing is not to never make mistakes, but to admit to them when you do make them, and then to follow through and do your best to make the wrong things right. Mistakes are part of growing. They are a natural part of every worthwhile endeavor.

If someone refuses to support you as you grow beyond your past mistakes, they are now the one that’s making a mistake. If someone continuously judges you by your past, holds it against you, and refuses to forgive you, you might have to repair your present and future by leaving them behind.

7. The inner critic-

Yes, sadly, the inner critic is inside YOU. Unrelenting self-criticism often goes hand in hand with unhappiness and anxiety, and it’s completely unjustified. There is no reason to be your own biggest critic – to harp on yourself for your shortcomings.

All you really need is the courage to be yourself. Your real value is rooted in who you are, not who you aren’t. There is something unique and special about you. You are different. You will never be as good as someone else, and they will never be as good as you.

When you accept this, there is no reason to compare yourself to someone or something you aren’t. There is nothing for the inner critic to complain about.

The writer is a Communications & Digital Marketing Officer at Career Point Kenya. Email: susan@www.careerpointkenya.co.ke